On Being a Man

Masculinity and Attraction Tips for Guys

5 Ways To Lose A Girl FAST - Things That Tell Her Your Masculinity is Is Non-Existant!

Now THIS sounds like an interesting topic, doesn't it? Why would you want to know how to LOSE a girl? Well, I'm going to propose a DANGEROUS IDEA.

I'm going to suggest that you are probably already an EXPERT in LOSING a girl. You might even be a "natural" at it. Most guys are.

But the PROBLEM is that most guys don't UNDERSTAND why they're so good at LOSING women.

In other words, they walk through the world screwing up one situation after another, and never realize JUST HOW GOOD they are at being BAD with women. And they don't realize that just by changing a few key things they could change their level of success DRAMATICALLY.

One great way to increase your success in life is to start REALIZING what you're doing. Once you actually understand what you're doing and the results you're triggering, you can CHANGE. So open your mind. Listen up.

TYPICAL THINGS MEN DO

As you've probably heard me say about a million times, MEN ARE PREDICTABLE. In fact, we're PAINFULLY predictable. We all do basically the same things when we get into common situations with women...and we don't even realize it.

I call this the "Originality Paradox."

In our desire to be "original" and "unique," we guys tend to do the SAME THINGS! Said differently, while you're doing something that seems thoughtful and original, the attractive woman on the other end is thinking, "He's just like all the other guys."

Ouch.

So why is being predictable so bad?

Look at this formula:

Predictable = BORING.

Boring = NO EMOTIONS.

No Emotions = NO ATTRACTION.

No Attraction = NO GETTIN' SHIZZY WITH THA NIZZY!

One of the VERY BEST ways to lose a girl is to be PREDICTABLE. Another huge mistake men make is GIVING AWAY OUR POWER to women.

I'm not going to go into it, but the reality is that women are NOT attracted to WEAK men. And I'm not talking about muscles here. If you act like a Wuss, you are shooting yourself in the foot. Before we go on, I want to mention something VERY important. If you have a nasty case of "Wuss-itis" and you can't seem to get rid of it, then go read THIS before you read the rest of this newsletter:

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Here are a few examples of how we guys act PREDICTABLE, give away our power, and make about 147 other huge mistakes with women we've just met:

1) Call Her All The Time

If you like someone, it's logical that you're going to want to let them know, right?

Well, only if you like the idea of coming across like a total Jack-Wuss. I just made that up, by the way. Combination of Jackass and Wuss. Not sure if I like it, but I'm going to go with it.

Where was I? Yeah, calling her all the time. Calling all the time is usually triggered by INSECURITY and NEEDINESS. It sounds like a good idea, but it almost NEVER is.

This is a great way to lose a girl before you even have her. We might even call this one "Have Prevention."

2) Offer To Take Her Somewhere "Nice"

What do most guys do when they meet a girl that they "really" like? Well, they call her up, and they get into a boring conversation about schools and families and jobs and 100 other painfully boring things...and when they finally realize that they've been on the phone for an hour, they realize that they'd better do SOMETHING soon...because she's starting to talk about having to go wash her dog....

So what do they do?

They think to themselves, "Self, you'd better get up some nerve and ask her out. Hey! Self! I have a GREAT idea. Ask her to go out with you to a REALLY NICE place. She'll be far more likely to want to do that, and besides, then she'll know that you REALLY like her...."

And what does this REALLY communicate? Right, right. That you have the confidence to just ask her to spend time with you for NO REASON other than the fact that you want to...and that you must not be WORTH spending time with - without some kind of "meal incentive."

Meal Incentive... lol... I crack myself up.

Well, this is one more example of something that "sounds good" in the moment, but is BAD BAD BAD for business.

3) Do "Thoughtful" Things From The Beginning

What's better than a nice, thoughtful guy showing up at the door with flowers and candy for the first date? Well, to quote an old Saturday Night Live episode, "Throwing an entire box of thumb tacks on the floor, and rolling around in them naked."

Or maybe taking one of those...you know...SERRATED KNIVES...yeah, that's it...and putting it between your big toe and second toe and slicing back and forth really fast...and then pouring... you know...HOT SAUCE...yeah, that's it...on the wound!

I hate it when that happens! But we men do this kind of thing all the time...because it sure sounds good in the moment.

By the way, don't try the thumb tack thing or the hot sauce thing UNLESS you're considering purchasing flowers and candy to bring to a first date. In that case, please take these measures to prevent yourself from acting on the uncontrollable urges.

If you come on too strong, you appear just like every other predictable Wussboy who has ever tried to make himself look better by giving gifts and food and favors in exchange for attention and approval.

4) Tell Her How You "Feel" About Her Early On

This might be one of my favorites.

I'm starting to think that we guys must come stock with a mechanism that actually compels us to open our BIG FAT MOUTHS and screw things up with only the BEST women.

I'll call this the "Feeling Confessor" mechanism. It is triggered by strong feelings of attraction and emotion toward an unusually attractive woman.

I've talked to A LOT of attractive women in my life. And they all have one similar experience to share...

For some UNKNOWN and UNGODLY reason, men just seem to LOVE telling SUPER HOT women how they FEEL within the first couple of dates. As you might realize, I get a lot of emails from guys... And one of the common emails I get goes a little something like this:

"David, I met this unbelievably hot girl...she's smart, interesting, successful...everything seemed to be going well...so I decided to tell her how I felt...and for some reason she said that she needs some "space" and some "time to be alone"...I don't get it...."

Again, when you do this you're making all kinds of huge mistakes...and basically doing everything you can do to LOSE her.

5) Keep Telling Her How You Feel When She Needs Space

And as if the last example wasn't painful enough, most guys usually like to use this final "nail in the coffin" technique as well...

Here's the situation:

You've met a girl you really like. Maybe you've gone out with her a few times. Doesn't matter. You do all the things you can think of to SCREW IT UP, and you finally succeed. You prove to her that you just don't get it and you don't know how to handle a woman like her. So she says, "I need some space" or "I need some time to myself."

And what do most guys do? Of course. They KEEP telling her how they feel. And they do it in 100 annoying ways. The thought that most guys have is, "If she only understood how I REALLY FELT ABOUT HER, then she would LOVE ME."

It's painful just typing the words.

So there you have it. Part of the magic formula for losing a girl fast. Interesting, isn't it? But there's a much DEEPER message here.

The message is this:

If you don't understand the process of how to make women feel ATTRACTION for you, including the things to AVOID doing, then you're not going to have success. Not knowing the rules of a game makes it very difficult (or impossible) to win.

And, unfortunately, we guys have a HUGE disadvantage when it comes to women and dating... We have emotional responses to situations that take over our "thinking," and makes us do all the wrong things.

We usually sabotage OURSELVES.

Well, the good news is that it does NOT have to be this way. There is a BETTER way. If you found this particular discussion interesting, then you're probably ready to learn the DEEPER secrets of how to be more successful with women and dating.

If you're ready to STOP losing women faster than you can meet them, then it's probably time for you to step up and get yourself an education about how to attract women and KEEP them attracted.

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I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

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