Dating Advice for Men from an Attractive Woman’s Perspective – Does David DeAngelo have it right?
David DeAngelo of Double Your Dating may be many things – some say he is pompous and condescending to women, some say he is nothing better than a pick up artist. But one thing I know, from an attractive woman’s perspective, is some of the things he tells his male readers is SPOT ON RIGHT.
As women, we may not appreciate the way he tells men how to pick us up and get our phone number within a few minutes, and even how to use a set of rules in order to elevate attraction. BUT – the bottom line is, it works. And let me tell you why.
First of all, David DeAngelo of Double Your Dating tells his male readers that attraction is not a choice – and he tells them how to make themselves more attractive to women. As a woman, you know what? I appreciate this! I WANT men to learn how to be more attractive to me, how to treat me so that they don’t look like a wussy little girl and how to treat me so that I am actually interested in them. Cocky Comedy, I have heard many women say, is just a big game to men. But I, personally, like it. I like a man to be witty, playful and come at me with a little bit of fun and a good and interesting conversation. I don’t mind if a guy comes up to me and pokes a little fun at my shoes or purse to get conversation going – I am much more likely to respond to a man that can make me laugh than one who comes up to me and tells me how breathtakingly gorgeous I am and turns to a rug under my feet. No thanks.
David DeAngelo is trying to show men how to act like men in order to get a girl. I have encountered countless men in my life who I thought, from looking at them, might be a great, fun guy. And then I start talking to them and all they do is fall over themselves trying to impress me and ingratiate themselves to me, and to me, that is totally UN-manly behavior. Men are suppose to be strong, not lap-dogs. Men are supposed to be the alpha, not yipping at my heels to get me to notice them. I DON’T LIKE THAT.
So guys – if you are reading this – keep it up. David DeAngelo of Double Your Dating IS telling you what works. Be strong, witty and be the alpha. David D does NOT encourage you to use women as sex toys or to be cruel with your cocky comedy – but he does encourage you to use your wit and intelligence to engage in fun conversation and to amp up the attraction. Go for it! As a woman, I appreciate this, and I think it is always fun and engaging to meet a guy who knows how to use cocky Comedy and how to encourage attraction from the get-go. Don’t buy me a drink. Engage my mind and get to the root of attraction. The drink buying and the flowers of course, can come later in the relationship – but in the beginning, if you want my attention, don’t beg me for it.
All the Best,
Sarah Michaels
**Sarah is a well known women’s dating advice expert and an occasional guest writer for You Can Get The Girl**