David Deangelo recently interviewed a gentleman named Grant Adams in his Interviews With Dating Gurus series. Grant Adams, who is also known in the dating world as Adam Gilad, as it turns out, knows quite a bit about how to meet and attract women – especially when it comes to meeting women online. Grant Adams tells David DeAngelo that he uses a particular communication style online that “short-circuits” a woman’s defenses… and simultaneously super charges her attraction.
Not only that, but Adam has figured out simple changes that ANY guy can make to his pictures, profile, and emails that dramatically increase the amount of responses you get from women almost instantly – so YOU can begin meeting women online.
Here are some killer dating tips for meeting women online from Grant Adams:
1. Make your strengths and attributes really stand out. Most guys described themselves in SELF-CRITICAL ways. They put themselves down, saying things like, “My name is Eric. You can call me Mr. Lonely…” This is a downer and will not help with meeting women online. Grant found that if he could convey his strengths in an attractive, factual, and sensual way… he’d be eons ahead of his “competition” online. And that’s exactly what he did. Take these strengths and show-case them in your profile or online and then COMBINE them with a vision of romance that paints a picture of a life that’s more exciting than the life she’s living. This shows her that you are not only a man who knows who he is, but that you’re a guy who can bring her a new realization of how great life can be. Communicating to women on this level drives them absolutely CRAZY… and you need to try it out.
2. Show them your confidence! Grant Adams believes that every guy has things about him that are attractive to the average woman. The only problem is we usually don’t know what they are. And even if we do, we don’t know how to communicate them in a way that AMPLIFIES or MAGNIFIES them… in a cool, not self-involved sort of way. Grant Adams suggested when trying to meet women online that when you describe your confidence and strengths, don’t use weak – yet all too common – phrases like “some people say I am…” or “I’m sort of…” Instead, demonstrate that you’re a guy who knows who you are by describing yourself in bold, clear terms. Don’t exaggerate… but don’t be wishy-washy either. And Grant pointed out something very interesting. He said that when you focus on your strengths instead of your weaknesses the people around you will ALSO focus on your strengths.
3. Expand Your “Self”. Here’s another killer dating tip Grant shared with David Deangelo. Never let a woman online define you. Ever seen a profile with the headline “Skater Guy” or “Nature Lover” or “Dr. Doolittle”? Most guys love to label themselves with a characteristic. But the problem is that once a woman can easily label you, much of the MYSTERY is gone… and she just won’t be as interested. Grant Adams says that is one of the basic laws of attraction, whether you are meeting women online or in person. However, if a woman reads your words and gets a sense that you’re deeper than your words say – that your words suggest more than they describe – then you’re in good shape. Relay that you can’t be defined – that you’re unpredictable and dynamic – and she’ll become irresistibly curious about all of the interesting side-streets of your personality waiting to be discovered.
4. Show Her You’re Sensual. And yes, you can do this when meeting women online! Every woman wants a man who appreciates the “senses”… a man so “in touch”, that he can ignite powerful, passionate feelings inside of her. But if you’ve ever done any “reconnaissance” online and read other guys’ profiles – I’m sure you’ve seen that most men have NO CLUE about how to attract women… let alone “ignite feelings” in a woman who they are trying to meet. Lucky you!
So how do you do this? Well unfortunately, you can’t just TELL a woman directly “Oh, I can make you feel great.” You must demonstrate your ability to make her feel good through the way you COMMUNICATE. Grant says that to create feelings in women over the web, you need to use vivid details. For instance, he suggests that if you talk about the food you enjoy, don’t just say you like fine wine… talk about how you love how a fine wine changes textures as it rolls around in your mouth. If you talk about a walk on the beach, don’t just say you like walking on the beach, describe in detail how you love the feeling of warm sand between your toes. Grant Adams suggests using sensual words like bare, ripe, supple, soft, sway, feline, tender, etc. When you use words like these, although you’re not talking directly about sex… you send a strong message that you know how to make her feel GREAT. And that’s what every woman wants to hear… in a subtle, mature, sensual way. This takes meeting women online and makes it more real to them, more immediate.
5. Create An Electrifying Life. Another point Grant made that seems obvious, but most guys miss is that if you want to be interesting to a woman, you have to lead an interesting life… and do interesting things. For example, let’s say there’s a woman you see online who you want to meet. She says she’s adventurous but you really haven’t done many adventurous things in your life. If you met her, you wouldn’t be able to connect on the “adventure” level. Grant suggests to step out of your comfort zone and DO something adventurous… jump out of a plane… go bungee jumping… do something that’s “radical” and BOLD. Now you have a very interesting experience you can talk about, not only with HER… but with EVERY woman you meet online or in person for the rest of your life. Another way to expand your horizons and make yourself more interesting is to take some classes on things you find interesting and that women might find interesting as well -like cooking, wine, or art. Most men are so afraid to try something or to take a class of any kind out of fear of embarrassment. But if you show a woman that you’re willing to “step out” there and expand who you are… it makes a DRAMATIC impact. Even simple things like mentioning that you looked at a book on cooking, or visited a wine-tasting website, show that you’re the type of guy who is constantly evolving and improving yourself which ALL women find very attractive.