NOTE: Nothing you do can have as much impact on dating success as getting your “Deep Inner Game” together. By this, I mean your self-image and self-confidence.
This week I want to talk about one of my favorite topics. I want to talk about the fact that Dating isn’t a “fair” game, and what to do about it…
First off, I want to mention that LIFE isn’t fair. In case you haven’t noticed, almost NOTHING is fair. Fairness is an idea that people have created. I think we probably created the concept to torture ourselves, in fact.
Here are a few ways that life isn’t “fair”, as the concept relates to women and dating:
1) Some men are taller, and some are shorter. Women tend to prefer taller men. How unfair.
2) A very small portion of the women that are alive are as perfect and beautiful as the women in Playboy and other magazines, and therefore it’s impossible for every man to have a woman that is this beautiful. How unfair.
3) Many men go their entire lives without ever having sex. How unfair.
4) Some men have sex with hundreds or even thousands of women in their lives. How unfair.
5) Some men know the secrets of creating that magical emotion called ATTRACTION inside of women even though they aren’t rich, handsome, tall, etc. and wind up having their choice of beautiful young women. How unfair.
6) Some men have NO IDEA what deep inner game is (How GREAT for YOU!)
The point I’m trying to make is that LIFE ISN’T FAIR!
Dating isn’t fair, either. Some guys take this to heart, and allow it to effect their deep inner game.
Sometimes a woman will respond positively to you, then the next day she’ll act strange. Sometimes a specific technique will work for you, and sometimes it won’t. Sometimes you’ll feel great and confident inside, and sometimes you won’t.
Now, most people don’t like the idea that life (and dating) aren’t fair. They get upset when things don’t go their way, place too much meaning on things that happen to them and responses they get from women, and generally act like life should be different.
Of course, this is CRAZY.
The more that I realized this fact… that life just isn’t fair… the more that I realized another PROFOUND truth:
IT’S GREAT NEWS!
If life were “fair”, then you wouldn’t be able to do anything to change your personal success. You’d get what everyone else was getting. But, the fact is that you CAN change your personal success in any area you want (including dating). You can straighten your deep inner game out – from the inside out.
And the best part of this good news is that you can not only get better and better, but you can actually turn the tables around in YOUR FAVOR.
You can improve so much that you are actually at an ADVANTAGE when it comes to women and dating. So, if the idea that “life isn’t fair” is such great news, then why aren’t more people thinking of it this way?
I personally think that most people aren’t WILLING to get up off of their couch, put the
remote down, and actually invest the time and effort required to become GREAT at something.
So, I’d like you to do something right now.
Take a moment, and make the decision and commitment to yourself that you’re going to TAKE ACTION in the areas of your life that you want to improve, and you’re going to do what it takes to stay on track until you get the results that you’re looking for.
Can you make that commitment to yourself?
Can you FOLLOW THROUGH on that commitment?
Can you commit to YOUR Deep Inner Game?
The most important decision I made in terms of my dating success was the fateful night that I decided that I was going to get this part of my life handled… NO MATTER WHAT.
Have YOU made this decision yet?
If not, then make it RIGHT NOW.
Bottom line:
Dating isn’t fair… and that’s great news.
When you turn the tables in your favor, you can create success that most men will only dream about. Really.
By the way…
Another problem is that a lot of people don’t know where to START. They don’t know how to get on the right track and where to learn things that actually work.
When I first decided that I had to learn how to meet and attract women for myself, I spent probably a year or two “wandering around” trying to find out what worked, trying, without knowing it, to get my deep inner game straight.
I ran in a lot of circles trying things that sounded like good ideas… but wound up being B.S. Then, once I finally figured out some of the ideas, techniques and skills it was going to take to really become great at this, it took awhile to really learn the skills and practice them to the point where I could use them and have predictable success with them.
Why am I telling you this?
Because I’d like to save you some of the time, effort, expense and hassle that I put into
figuring out all of my secrets… and I’d like to help you swing the odds in your favor when it comes to women.