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The Alpha Male And Virtue

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Every Great Man’s Secret

Ok – you have obviously heard about being an alpha male, right?  Of course you have.  If not, no problem, a lot of guys get false information anyway.  Most guys get it all wrong, because they take the common virtues that women have, such as kindness, compassion and generosity, and think that in order to be a masculine man or an alpha male, that a man has to be the OPPOSITE of this.

Simply not true.

If you want to be a man, a real man who is a leader and a go getter, someone with confidence and appeal to women, you have to learn to master the virtues of a what a real alpha male is.  Real alpha men are not …

  • false
  • cruel
  • arrogant
  • mean spirited
  • followers
  • without thought

Real alpha men ARE, on the other hand…

  • honest
  • confident
  • caring
  • compassionate
  • altruistic
  • leaders

Men, being stereotyped as false alpha males, are often thought to be without the virtues and attributes commonly thought of as womanly or feminine.  However, virtues and characteristics of the alpha male are the characteristics and attributes that one would want to see in a good, strong, faithful leader.

For instance, an alpha male, as the leader of his “pack”, will look out for the good of his group.  If we consider the group to be his family, he is a thoughtful father who takes care of and provides for his children.  He teaches them strong and clear virtues such as truthfulness, helpfulness, honesty and caring.  He teaches them to treat people with dignity and respect, but he also teaches them to treat themselves with dignity and respect, caring for oneself by taking care of the body, mind and spirit.

Alpha males do not allow others to push them around and cheat, lie or steal.  They stand up for those who are in need, fight for virtue and honesty, defend the weak, help the poor and sick and provide for those less able and less fortunate than themselves.

Put in some terms, some folks might think to call these womanly or motherly virtues – however, they can just as easily be applied to the man who has a true and strong idea of his own characteristics.  Vices and virtues are equally applied to both sexes, and simply because women carry the stereotype for having one set of virtues does not mean that the men, the REAL men, have to be the opposite.

There is nothing manly about kicking those who are down, war, rape, pillage and thievery.  There is no honor in making fun of people, capitalizing on the downfalls and problems of others.  Alpha males do not do this – they are upright and strong, not needing to look for the misfortune of others in order to get ahead of the game.

3 Alpha Male Attitudes

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One of the biggest secrets to success with women and dating is learning to become the alpha male (or Alpha Man, Alpha Dog or THE Alpha man, however you want to put it) – or the leader of the proverbial pack.

What is an Alpha Male? The Alpha Male is the man who is confident, cocky, sure of himself an attracting all the women. Is he the best looking guy out there? Nope – not at all. In fact, I have known some BUTT ugly guys who have been alpha males and the women cannot get enough of them. Why? It’s the ATTITUDE.

Guess what the great thing about this is? Unlike being born looking like Brad Pitt, the Alpha Male attitude is something that can be LEARNED.  It is a SYSTEM – the alpha male system. You can LEARN how to become an alpha male, what it takes to project the confidence and attractive qualities that these men possess naturally. You can learn confidence with women, how to project masculinity and how to build confidence.  You CAN become what they are. Read more to find out how…

Three Winning Alpha Male Attitudes That Impress Women

Have you ever gotten so fed up with dating women and dealing with all the crap that you just pull out of the game entirely? You get sick of being blown off all the time, and really sick of never being able to reach them in the first place.

Hey, I’ve been there.

We all reach a point of disgust and anger about all the silly social rules in the dating game and we throw in the towel.

However, this kind of reaction implies a few things. First off, that you’re needing a particular result in order to keep going. Well, that’s perfectly natural. You wouldn’t show up at your job every day if you didn’t get the expected paycheck each week, now would you?

When it comes to dating women and the whole pick-up game, you’ve got to realize that you may have to walk a while in the desert before you find the oasis you’re looking for. Hey, if that’s the worst news someone had given me a while back, I would have said, NO PROBLEM! Bring it on!

Now the good news is that you can shorten the path to your oasis by being smart about how you get women interested in you. So, in keeping with this, I’m going to tell you about three Alpha Male attitudes that draw women to men.

As you read these, I want you to try something for me. No matter how ‘obvious’ what I might say seems, I want you to re-think your beliefs about them, and see if you are still, perhaps, working under the opposite belief in some way.

If that sounds confusing, just wait and we’ll go into it in more detail.

Let’s start with things that women find alluring. These are my top Three Alpha Male Attitudes that will improve you 100+% in the eyes of the women you approach and date if you’ll work on them.

In fact, if you really get what I’m about to tell you, you’re going to have a problem finding time for all the women that will want to get with you.

I’m not hyping it up here, either, dude. I’m serious. With my Alpha hobbies, helping you guys, and the women in my life, I’m starting to forget to pay bills and keep enough water in my dog’s bowl. BAD Carlos, I know.
So here are the Three Success Attitudes:

Alpha Male Attitude #1 – Guys who like themselves

Yes, even though we’re men, we still have PLENTY of things to like about ourselves. Contrary to the popular media that demonizes us, guys are pretty cool. Having a pecker rocks!

I mean, let’s start with the obvious things about guys that are cool: We invented beer and stock car racing. What more do we have to do, after all? Yeah, I’m sure we invented the remote control, and probably the electric guitar, while we’re at it.

We’re GUYS. We make cool stuff.

But that’s not all. You see, women really pick up on guys who LIKE being guys.

And not just guys who like their gender. Women really like guys who like THEMSELVES. It comes across in the way we treat ourselves and the way we treat others. If you like yourself, you probably aren’t a dick.

It’s an easy deduction, because the ironic thing about confidence and self-esteem is that the men you THINK might have it (i.e., Jerks) actually DON’T have it at all. They’re making up for being horribly insecure dweebs. Ya dig?

So the more you communicate a self-liking, the more you’re going to cultivate a more interesting and vibrant personality. And that “vibrant” turns into a “vibe” that you’ll get with a woman when she picks up on it.

Just don’t self-like yourself TOO much there, spanky. Keep the hand lotion out of sight.

Alpha Male Attitude #2 – Guys who are fun to be around.

And when I say fun, man, I mean FUN.

Not that you have to juggle and tell great jokes, but you should definitely have a little personality to show that gets people interested.

The easiest way to cultivate this trait is to open yourself up to being more PLAYFUL.

Being playful means having a slightly childish part of you that you can bring out on occasion to have a little fun with women. Tease them a little. Poke them in the ribs. Tell her she’s got cooties.

Another great way to be fun is to go PLACES that are fun. I like meeting women in interesting spots of San Francisco so we can be interactive. There’s a great place here called the Exploratorium where you get to interact with hundreds of experiments and scientific demonstrations – from magnetism to music to glow-in-the-dark bacteria. It’s a hoot. And there’s a LOT of possibility for physical interaction between you and HER there, too.

Make a list of all the cool places you can go with her. She’ll associate the feelings she experiences WITH YOU. Remember that.

Alpha Male Attitude #3 – Guys who are confident and go after what they want.

This is the one that a lot of guys have a tough time with.

“What is ‘confident’?” they ask.

Confidence is simply your willingness to be who you are with no regrets, guilt, or anxiety. You don’t care what other people think. You’re validated from within.

Are You AFRAID Of Women? How to Increase Your Masculinity

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This is a guest excerpt from David DeAngelo of Double Your Dating.

What prevents men from being successful with women? Well, the list goes on and on… but one of the elements that TOPS the list is FEAR. FEAR is also known – to women – as a lack of masculinity.

There are many different situations that make men feel fear, but I’d like to talk about some of the most common ones… and what to do about them.

First of all, I’d like you to be honest for a moment about this topic.

Do you ever feel FEAR when it comes to women and dating?

Have you ever seen a woman that you’d really like to meet, but you started to feel fear and didn’t do anything about it?

Or maybe you were on a date and you wanted to kiss a woman… but you felt too afraid because you didn’t want to make a mistake and screw up your chances?

Or maybe you even got a woman’s phone number, but you were too afraid to call back because you didn’t know how to start off the conversation or ask her out?

Cummon, seriously…

Have you ever been sitting there with the phone in your hand, dialing a woman’s number, but you had to hang up because you were just too nervous to even talk to her…?

Or out on a date with a woman, and you wanted to kiss her, but you got so nervous at the thought that you just decided it would be better to forget the whole idea and hope for the best…?

Me too. Many times, in fact. By the way, it’s not exactly FUN to admit that you’re afraid of things. I’m sure you know that most guys would rather admit in public that they were unsure about their sexual orientation than that they were afraid of women.

Of course, this unwillingness to admit that you have a problem IN THE FIRST PLACE only makes matters worse…and it is certainly notmasculine or mature. If you don’t admit that you have the problem, then it’s hard to get help and answers to it.

Well, the good news is that you’re not alone. Almost every guy I’ve known (including myself) has dealt with this issue MANY TIMES with women.

So, STEP 1 is to GET OVER IT. Get over your need to deny that you’re afraid. Just admit that you’re afraid, and come to grips with the fact that you’re human…

STEP 2 is to admit that you’d like to get this particular area of your life handled.

STEP 3 is to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

Once you realize that it’s not that big of a deal, then the improvement can start. On the other hand, if you just stay in denial about it, you’ll probably just look for new tricks and techniques to use on women… which, of course, won’t lead to any REAL improvement.

By the way, if you’ve got more than the “average” amount of fear around meeting women, you might want to take a minute and look at THIS (David Deangelo’s Double Your Dating Program) before you read on.

I personally think that one of the biggest causes of fear when it comes to situations with women is:

PUTTING TOO MUCH IMPORTANCE ON WHAT THE WOMAN THINKS OF YOU AND WHAT HAPPENS IN THAT PARTICULAR SITUATION.

To put it in different words, most guys don’t take action because they’re afraid that they’ll screw up, or that the woman or others around will judge them.

The REAL problem though is that this whole process has become AUTOMATIC, and it happens INSTANTLY the moment most guys see a woman that they’d like to meet. Before they even have a chance to think about the situation rationally, they’ve become nervous, insecure, and upset.

I’m sure you know EXACTLY what I’m talking about.

As humans, we have these incredible minds and bodies, but sometimes they get wired up in ways that aren’t exactly useful for the situations that we find ourselves in. Worse, sometimes our cultures, families, or peer groups teach us ways of thinking that just aren’t useful at all for what we’d like to accomplish.  Its like the Alpha Males get neutered before they are even born.

Here’s something that I realized a few years ago when I was learning for myself how to be successful with women…

I thought about this idea that I was having this instant, automatic fear in different situations with women, and that what I was really thinking was “I don’t want to screw this up” and “I don’t want her to think that I’m a dork”…

And all of a sudden something dawned on me:

IT DOESN’T MATTER.

It doesn’t matter what happens, and it doesn’t matter what she thinks of me.

I realized that the fears I was experiencing were more from PROGRAMMING than from reality.

So, I started to remind myself as often as possible that the fear wasn’t happening because there was any kind of danger… and that my objective in a particular situation wasn’t to have it turn out perfect, IT WAS TO LEARN.

Think about the difference between doing something because it’s important vs. doing something in order to LEARN. So, for instance, if I saw a woman that I wanted to meet… instead of thinking, “OK, I have to say something charming and original so she’ll like me… and if I screw up I’m going to be embarrassed” – I began to think things like, “I’m going to learn how to get a woman’s phone number within a few minutes of meeting her… and part of learning this is going to be trying a lot of different things that probably aren’t going to work… but in the end, it’s all going to even out because I’m going to have the SKILL that I want.”

See the difference?

Well, let me tell you, that change in attitude made a HUGE impact on my success. I was willing to do and try things that I never would have tried in the past for fear of screwing up…

All because I had the attitude of “I’m going to learn something from this and improve my skills… and it doesn’t matter what happens in THIS PARTICULAR situation”, I was able to improve very rapidly.

And the more I began to apply this idea, the more success I had in ALL areas with women… from the first meeting, to getting them to go out with me, to taking things to a physical level.

So do this:

Go out RIGHT NOW and start a conversation with a woman.

I don’t care if she’s attractive or not.

But instead of having the objective of getting a date, have the objective of LEARNING SOMETHING.

In fact, if you REALLY want to improve fast, go spend a day starting conversations with women, but make the commitment to NOT get any phone numbers or dates all day.

In other words, no matter WHAT happens, you can’t date any of the women that you meet that day.

See if you can just learn how to do a few simple things like say, “Hi” to every woman that walks by… how to maintain eye contact with women until THEY look away… and how to end a conversation “too soon” so she feels a natural vacuum and tries to keep it going herself…

That’s one good idea for dealing with your fears.

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.
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Crash Course on Being Funny – Cocky Comedy Tips by David DeAngelo

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Guys wanting dating advice are always asking me how to talk to women and how to keep the attraction going when meeting women or going on a date.  Flat out – one of the best ways to keep a woman interested is to learn how to BE FUNNY.  I always recommend my readers check out David DeAngelo’s Cocky Comedy course, but this article is going to give you seven tips right out of the Double Your Dating eBook on how to be funny.  Trust me, even YOU can do this!

Alright, so what you need to learn is how to use a few things to make quick, witty comments that will amp up her attraction.  I hear you, though, asking me how a smart-assed remark is going to make a woman attracted to you.  Trust me friend – if you want a beautiful woman, you cannot trip all over yourself like a love-sick toady.  You have to show that you are not intimidated by her and that you can take her or leave her.  A great way to do this and to display confidence is through the use of humor – not class clown humor – sharp, witty humor.

Ok, so on to the tips from David DeAngelo….

First –  You remember Joey from Friends?  Remember how Joey made the phrase “Hi – how are you?” into a sexually laden comment?  Well, you need to start doing the same sort of thing by looking for sexual innuendo in every situation and using that to charge her with trying to seduce you before you even really know her. For example, if she says, “Well, it’s getting late, and I think it’s time I head off to bed”, you say, “Bed? Already?  You haven’t even bought me dinner yet!  What would your mother say?”

Second – if someone gives a really emotional response to something, ask them, “How do you REALLY feel about it?” So one thing she could say is “I just HATE it when waiters take too long!” you ask her, “How do you REALLY feel about it?” Your sarcastic comment will bring out the ridiculousness of the heat of the remark compared to the real situation.

Third – and one of my personal favorites -exaggerate. One thing Tyler Durden used to say is “Whatever you are saying you like, say it is the “BEST ____ EVER!!”  Like, “This is the BEST SHIRT EVER!” ina  really emphatic way.  Or you can also really turn it around on a woman when she is fishing for a compliment, and she says something like “This shirt makes my boobs look too big” you can say “Well, I was not going to mention it, but I was thinking about propping a lawn chair under them to keep out of the sun today….”  Beware – you may get a solid punch for that, but its worth it.  (If she hits you, by the way, you ALWAYS smack her ass).  And if she gets violent like that – keep it up!!  You are doing it right!

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The fourth thing you can do is great.  Say, “Anyway” and look away fast after making a wise-ass comment. An example – if someone says, “That guy looks like a total DORK” say, “Oh, I thought he was your twin – anyway” (look away quickly). Looking away is really important, and saying “anyway” let’s you move into another element of the conversation.  Keep your face straight, too, if you can, that always makes it even funnier.

A fifth tip on being funny from David DeAngelo – try to connect things happening around you to current events in a comical way. If a guy with a pale complexion walks by, say, “Check it out – its Edward Cullen!” If a woman starts talking about how she just bought herself a new car, say, “I hope it’s not one of those you can fold up and put in your purse….” (These may be funny now, but in a year or two no one will get them, so be sure to keep up to date on things!)

The sixth tip – always intentionally misinterpret what a woman says.  If you say, “Let’s run over to the pizza shop and grab a bite to eat ” and the girl says, “Let’s do it”, turn to her and say, “Let’s do it? You mean right here? I was hungry, but I can wait if you insist!”

The last tip is – even if you think you are hilarious, TRY not to laugh at your own jokes very often.  If you can maintain a poker face, it will make each of these situations even funnier and increase the tension.

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Are YOU Man Enough to Take a Chance?

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Gambling can be fun at times – playing Poker, betting on horses or football games or even in physical situations like skiing.  Most men, however, don’t particularly like to gamble when it comes to approaching women.  I mean, it’s easier to lose a few bucks to a pal than to lose face when a woman rejects you, right?

Naturally, this leads to guys wanting to figure out a way to meet women that involves no risk.  Well, you can always have your buddies pre-screen every woman you want to walk up to and say hi.  They could interview her!  “Hey – my friend over there wants to know if you are interested in him.”  OR – you could do like I did the first time I ever wanted to ask a girl out.  I sent her a note that said, “Will you be my girlfriend?  Check one.  Yes   No”.

Give me a break, it was 6th grade!

Ok, so maybe those ideas aren’t so great.  In fact, they are downright wussie.  It’s easy to see that, though, when you are reading it in black and white.

My point is, there is no way to meet a woman without taking some risks.  Trying to do so creates a mentality of “average-ness”.  Being average is NOT attractive to women.  Women want a guy who can create attraction for them, and that means being a strong, confident, powerful man comfortable in your own skin.

There are two things you can do to minimize the impact of rejection.  One thing is to use a little Cocky Comedy.  The other thing is to not take rejection so seriously.

Cocky Comedy is a technique for meeting women developed by David Deangelo.   What is it?  Cocky Comedy is technique for meeting women that uses humor that not only elevates attraction but establishes you as the alpha male.  What you do is you start busting on her from the minute you meet.  Joke with her, bust on her, keep her on her toes – and this will create attraction for her.

For example, tell her that you noticed she is nursing that drink like a 2 day old baby.  Or tell her she is going to have to work harder than that to get your attention.  Bust on her clothes, her height (NEVER HER WEIGHT!!!) her shoes, her laugh – whatever comes to mind.  Make it witty.  And after that, you give her a sign using body language that shows her you are interested in her.

So you get it?  You bust on her verbally – then with your body language tell her you are attracted to her.  It works like a charm.

Now – there is always risk involved.  What if you go too far and piss her off?  It’s the end of the world!!  Or not.  I, personally, choose the “not” option.  Remember – YOU are TOTALLY in charge of how things affect you.  Does it bruise my ego when a hot woman rejects me?  No – because I CHOOSE to move on and not even think about it again, because it does not matter.  She was probably a freak anyway!