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By Scot McKay

Let’s talk about someone who deserves to be covered in WAY more detail than I’ve ever shared before.

It’s clearly time to do so, because I’m getting more and more e-mails from guys who are going on dates with her–often leading to long-term relationships with her.

I’m referring, of course, to the infamous “double-standard chick”.

On the surface, she’s probably beautiful, intelligent and possibly even fun to be with.

But after only a short time of hanging out with her, you start to realize that something doesn’t feel right.

Essentially, you feel like she’s got rights and privileges that you aren’t free to reserve for yourself.

Worse, you feel as if you’d be either selfish or flat-out ridiculous were you to make an issue of it in any way.

For example, she is disappointed, hurt or even straight-up angry when you even so much as glance at another woman at the mall. Whether you actually did so or not is unimportant. She believes you did, so you’d better stop it.

Meanwhile, she has quite a number of guys in her life who are “just really, really, really good friends”. When they show up, they hug her, banter with her and behave in a manner that you are all but sure is flirting.

And sure enough, she hits them on the shoulder and giggles in return.

Sometimes, she even hangs out with them…as in on a “1-on-1 basis”. They get sushi. Study together. Get a few drinks.

And sometimes she sort of gets too tired to drive home, so she crashes at his place…on the couch, of course.

That’s all okay, though, because he’s “like a big brother” to her.

Do you say anything when this goes on?

Probably not. After all, that would make you appear insecure. You’d look like you were threatened.

And that’s not very masculine. You’ve been taught that being “needy” is a bad idea, it is NOT  a trait of the Alpha Male. So you back off.

But the fact remains that you know if you were to hang out with other women like that, she WOULDN’T put up with it.

So how does she get away with this?

Simply put, she’s got a DOUBLE-STANDARD working.

And YOU, my good man, have BOUGHT INTO it.

The programming goes something like this:

Step One: Believe all men are dogs, only want one thing, and therefore are untrustworthy.

Step Two: Believe that women, on the other hand, are the ones who are universally committed to faithful relationships and monogamy. All they want is “Mr. Right”.

Step Three: Women are givers of life and nurturers, whereas men are the ones responsible for wars and strife. So if there’s a problem, it’s the guy’s fault…

Step Four: …and WHEN there’s a problem, the guy’s response is expected to be one of aggression and oppression toward the more passive woman, who is in danger of being physically and/or emotionally abused at any given moment.

So the end result of such programming is that a woman considers herself inherently trustworthy. She knows SHE wouldn’t cheat or anything.

Meanwhile, however, since you are a guy, what are understood to be YOUR “inherent” traits must be kept under lock and key.

“But wait a second,” you ask, “all I really want is a great girlfriend. And even if I am dating more than one woman, I’m honest and respectful about it. And hey, it’s not like I’ve started any wars lately. I’ve never even been in a fistfight.”

“Besides,” you say, “every time I’ve ever seen an episode of ‘Cheaters’ there’s as many women on there running around as men.”

Indeed.

So how did this happen?

Moreover, how is it that we as guys can watch ourselves getting “owned” right before our very eyes, yet we feel much more comfortable pretending it “isn’t what it looks like” rather than standing up to the “double-standard”?

And why do we feel compelled to tell her to “have fun” with a wave and a smile when she goes out with her friends to a bar or club-looking hotter than we’ve seen her in weeks-when we’re loaded down with guilt if we go to the sports bar on a Saturday afternoon to watch the game and have a beer or two with the guys?

Here it is: You’ve ALLOWED YOURSELF to take on the archetypal guilt of every other guy before you who allegedly acted like an I/J (Idiot/Jerk).

In other words, you believe women are the “oppressed” race, and that you are part of the social group who is historically responsible for the “oppression”.

So you walk on eggshells.

After all, you most certainly want to be part of the solution rather than the problem.

You want to correct millennia of errant behavior on the part of men everywhere-all the way from dragging women into the cave by their hair to paying them less per hour compared to men for the same type of work.

You might even subconsciously feel it’s incumbent upon you to make “restitution”, as preposterous as that sounds when printed in black and white.

And “Double-Standard Chick”? She’s more than happy to allow you to take that on.

In fact, even years into a long-term relationship when guys are getting nagged a lot, it’s often because of unresolved “double-standard” issues.

Well, either that or she’s doing all the housework.

So let’s talk some sense here for a second.

First of all, consider that there are quite a few women who are reading this newsletter. They’re definitely out there, and they read because they like hearing what I tell you guys about how to be a great man – how to be the masculine Alpha Male she is looking for.

But some have taken the bait regarding the concept I’m talking about here also. In fact, in many cases it’s hook, line and sinker.

So I’ll likely get a smattering of angry e-mails from a few of them.

They’ll write me and accuse me of being negative toward women simply because I’m attempting to debunk the “double-standard”.

The truth, however, is that I’m exhorting a more positive representation of one another by BOTH MEN AND WOMEN.

Know this, gentlemen: Not EVERY woman subscribes to the “double-standard”.

Some believe that great men of character-like you-exist. They’d rather avoid negative influences in their life, think the best of a great man who comes along, and focus on having a healthy relationship.

This means that if you are indeed that “Big Four” guy (an Alpha Male) (masculine, confident, ability to inspire safety/security, high-character) you should EXPECT that such a woman will respond positively to you.

After all, you will share mutual respect and have each other’s best interests at heart.

Sound too good to be true?

If so, your reality needs an overhaul.

When you BUY IN to the “all male behavior is bad behavior” concept, you begin very quickly to feel actual, raw SHAME over simply being male.

This is particularly messed up because WOMEN LOVE MEN.

So even as you begin to “camouflage” your masculinity out of shame for all the “bad stuff” men have done to women over the years, you become LESS ATTRACTIVE.

And “Double-Standard Chick”?

She simply becomes even more annoyed by you, leading to what? You guessed it…a greater feeling of freedom towards treating you with disrespect.

A caveat here.

“Double-Standard Chick” may indeed be quite a gifted manipulator. But then again, she may be a perfectly well-meaning woman who happens to have been subject to the SAME faulty programming as YOU.

So the ultimate irony? Even those women who are beholden to the “double-standard” aren’t always particularly thrilled about it.

If you think about it, that makes the whole thing even more messed-up than previously thought.

Whoa. So what does all this mean?

It means that you DO have the right to consider yourself a REAL MAN and not the living perpetuation of “caveman culture”.

Therefore, it ALSO means that you need not passively endure the “double standard”.

ULTIMATELY, it means that YOU must LEAD. You must be the Alpha Man and stand up, speak on behalf of mutual respect-by name-and announce that your intention is to respect women and enjoy the company of those who respect you in return.

And if that’s not part of her plan, you wish her well.

Sound almost too easy?

Perhaps.

But the key here is to remember, as I alluded to, that some women who live by the “double-standard” are actually disgusted by it nonetheless.

Seriously. You should see the e-mails from women we get who expect the worst of guys, only to get annoyed when they act “nice” thinking it’s simply an indicator of a more covert form of “bad behavior”.

Usually, the guys they write about were tiptoeing around trying not to hurt the woman’s feelings…not wanting to be the “oppressor”.

Not always, of course, but usually.

Now listen, I’m not about to make some Pollyannaish assertion that everyone on Earth is an angel.

I fully get that there are indeed bona-fide I/Js out there. And by the way, guys, they’re giving great men like you a BAD NAME.

And similarly, there are women who mean well and those who do not.

Are You Afraid of Women?

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Deep Inner Game: If you want to read the story of how a man went from not even being able to TALK to a woman he didn’t know… to the point where he can approach any woman in any situation, and get as many dates as he wants.

Learning about Deep inner Game – What prevents men from being successful with women?

Well, the list goes on and on… but one of the elements that TOPS the list when defeating Deep Inner Game is FEAR.  There are many different situations that make men feel fear, but I’d like to talk about some of the most common ones… and what to do about them.

First of all, I’d like you to be honest for a moment about this topic.  Do you ever feel FEAR when it comes to women and dating?  Have you ever seen a woman that you’d really like to meet, but you started to feel fear and didn’t do anything about it?  Have you ever felt your Deep Inner Game crumble before your eyes?

Or maybe you were on a date and you wanted to kiss a woman… but you felt too afraid because you didn’t want to make a mistake and screw up your chances?

Or maybe you even got a woman’s phone number, but you were too afraid to call back because you didn’t know how to start off the conversation or ask her out?

Cummon, seriously… you have just a teeny problem with your Deep Inner Game?

Have you ever been sitting there with the phone in your hand, dialing a woman’s number, but you had to hang up because you were just too nervous to even talk to her…?

Or out on a date with a woman, and you wanted to kiss her, but you got so nervous at the thought that you just decided it would be better to forget the whole idea and hope for the best…?

Me too. Many times, in fact.

By the way, it’s not exactly FUN to admit that you’re afraid of things.  I’m sure you know that most guys would rather admit in public that they were unsure about their sexual orientation than that they were afraid of women.

Of course, this unwillingness to admit that you have a problem IN THE FIRST PLACE only makes matters worse…

If you don’t admit that you have the problem, then it’s hard to get help and answers to cure your Deep Inner Game problems.

Well, the good news is that you’re not alone.

Almost every guy I’ve known (including myself) has dealt with this issue MANY TIMES with women.

So, STEP 1 is to GET OVER IT. Get over your need to deny that you’re afraid. Just admit that you’re afraid, and come to grips with the fact that you’re human…

STEP 2 is to admit that you’d like to get this particular area of your life handled.

STEP 3 is to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.  Like BOOST your Deep Inner Game with KNOWLEDGE and EXPERIENCE.

Once you realize that it’s not that big of a deal, then the improvement can start. On the other hand, if you just stay in denial about it, you’ll probably just look for new tricks and techniques to use on women… which, of course, won’t lead to any REAL improvement.

I personally think that one of the biggest causes of fear when it comes to situations with women is:

PUTTING TOO MUCH IMPORTANCE ON WHAT THE WOMAN THINKS OF YOU AND WHAT HAPPENS IN THAT PARTICULAR SITUATION.

To put it in different words, most guys don’t take action because they’re afraid that they’ll screw up, or that the woman or others around will judge them.

The REAL problem though is that this whole process has become AUTOMATIC, and it happens INSTANTLY the moment most guys see a woman that they’d like to meet. Before they even have a chance to think about the situation rationally, they’ve become nervous, insecure, and upset.  their insecurities in their Deep Inner Game surface.

I’m sure you know EXACTLY what I’m talking about.

As humans, we have these incredible minds and bodies, but sometimes they get wired up in ways that aren’t exactly useful for the situations that we find ourselves in. Worse, sometimes our cultures, families, or peer groups teach us ways of thinking that just aren’t useful at all for what we’d like to accomplish.

Here’s something that I realized a few years ago when I was learning for myself how to be successful with women…

I thought about this idea that I was having this instant, automatic fear in different situations with women, and that what I was really thinking was “I don’t want to screw this up” and “I don’t want her to think that I’m a dork”…

And all of a sudden something dawned on me:

IT DOESN’T MATTER.

It doesn’t matter what happens, and it doesn’t matter what she thinks of me.

I realized that the fears I was experiencing were more from PROGRAMMING than from reality.

So, I started to remind myself as often as possible that the fear wasn’t happening because there was any kind of danger… and that my objective in a particular situation wasn’t to have it turn out perfect, IT WAS TO LEARN.

Think about the difference between doing something because it’s important vs. doing something in order to LEARN.

So, for instance, if I saw a woman that I wanted to meet… instead of thinking, “OK, I have to say something charming and original so she’ll like me… and if I screw up I’m going to be embarrassed” – I began to think things like, “I’m going to learn how to get a woman’s phone number within a few minutes of meeting her… and part of learning this is going to be trying a lot of different things that probably aren’t going to work… but in the end, it’s all going to even out because I’m going to have the SKILL that I want.”

See the difference?

Can you imagine the difference that makes in your Deep Inner Game?

Well, let me tell you, that change in attitude made a HUGE impact on my success. I was willing to do and try things that I never would have tried in the past for fear of screwing up…

All because I had the attitude of “I’m going to learn something from this and improve my skills…and it doesn’t matter what happens in THIS PARTICULAR situation”, I was able to improve very rapidly.

And the more I began to apply this idea, the more success I had in ALL areas with women… from the first meeting, to getting them to go out with me, to taking things to a physical level.

So do this:

Go out RIGHT NOW and start a conversation with a woman.

I don’t care if she’s attractive or not.

But instead of having the objective of getting a date, have the objective of LEARNING SOMETHING.

In fact, if you REALLY want to improve fast, go spend a day starting conversations with women, but make the commitment to NOT get any phone numbers or dates all day.

In other words, no matter WHAT happens, you can’t date any of the women that you meet that day.

See if you can just learn how to do a few simple things like say, “Hi” to every woman that walks by… how to maintain eye contact with women until THEY look away… and how to end a conversation “too soon” so she feels a natural vacuum and tries to keep it going herself…

That’s one good idea for dealing with your fears and building your deep inner game.

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

Ben

Why Dating is not Fair to Men

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NOTE: Nothing you do can have as much impact on dating success as getting your “Deep Inner Game” together. By this, I mean your self-image and self-confidence.

This week I want to talk about one of my favorite topics.   I want to talk about the fact that Dating isn’t a “fair” game, and what to do about it…

First off, I want to mention that LIFE isn’t fair. In case you haven’t noticed, almost NOTHING is fair. Fairness is an idea that people have created. I think we probably created the concept to torture ourselves, in fact.

Here are a few ways that life isn’t “fair”, as the concept relates to women and dating:

1) Some men are taller, and some are shorter.  Women tend to prefer taller men. How unfair.

2) A very small portion of the women that are alive are as perfect and beautiful as the women in Playboy and other magazines, and therefore it’s impossible for every man to have a woman that is this beautiful. How unfair.

3) Many men go their entire lives without ever having sex. How unfair.

4) Some men have sex with hundreds or even thousands of women in their lives. How unfair.

5) Some men know the secrets of creating that magical emotion called ATTRACTION inside of women even though they aren’t rich, handsome, tall, etc. and wind up having their choice of beautiful young women. How unfair.

6) Some men have NO IDEA what deep inner game is (How GREAT for YOU!)

The point I’m trying to make is that LIFE ISN’T FAIR!

Dating isn’t fair, either.  Some guys take this to heart, and allow it to effect their deep inner game.

Sometimes a woman will respond positively to you, then the next day she’ll act strange. Sometimes a specific technique will work for you, and sometimes it won’t.   Sometimes you’ll feel great and confident  inside, and sometimes you won’t.

Now, most people don’t like the idea that life (and dating) aren’t fair. They get upset when things don’t go their way, place too much meaning on things that happen to them and responses they get from women, and generally act like life should be different.

Of course, this is CRAZY.

The more that I realized this fact… that life just isn’t fair… the more that I realized another PROFOUND truth:

IT’S GREAT NEWS!

If life were “fair”, then you wouldn’t be able to do anything to change your personal success. You’d get what everyone else was getting.  But, the fact is that you CAN change your personal success in any area you want (including dating). You can straighten your deep inner game out – from the inside out.

And the best part of this good news is that you can not only get better and better, but you can actually turn the tables around in YOUR FAVOR.

You can improve so much that you are actually at an ADVANTAGE when it comes to women and dating.  So, if the idea that “life isn’t fair” is such great news, then why aren’t more people thinking of it this way?

I personally think that most people aren’t WILLING to get up off of their couch, put the
remote down, and actually invest the time and effort required to become GREAT at something.

So, I’d like you to do something right now.

Take a moment, and make the decision and commitment to yourself that you’re going to TAKE ACTION in the areas of your life that you want to improve, and you’re going to do what it takes to stay on track until you get the results that you’re looking for.

Can you make that commitment to yourself?

Can you FOLLOW THROUGH on that commitment?

Can you commit to YOUR Deep Inner Game?

The most important decision I made in terms of my dating success was the fateful night that I decided that I was going to get this part of my life handled… NO MATTER WHAT.

Have YOU made this decision yet?

If not, then make it RIGHT NOW.

Bottom line:

Dating isn’t fair… and that’s great news.

When you turn the tables in your favor, you can create success that most men will only dream about. Really.

By the way…

Another problem is that a lot of people don’t know where to START. They don’t know how to get on the right track and where to learn things that actually work.

When I first decided that I had to learn how to meet and attract women for myself, I spent probably a year or two “wandering around” trying to find out what worked, trying, without knowing it, to get my deep inner game straight.

I ran in a lot of circles trying things that sounded like good ideas… but wound up being B.S. Then, once I finally figured out some of the ideas, techniques and skills it was going to take to really become great at this, it took awhile to really learn the skills and practice them to the point where I could use them and have predictable success with them.

Why am I telling you this?

Because I’d like to save you some of the time, effort, expense and hassle that I put into
figuring out all of my secrets… and I’d like to help you swing the odds in your favor when it comes to women.

Mingles Reviewed

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Mingles is one of the newer online dating sites where you can meet new people, create lasting relationships, mingle, or just have a great time! One of the unique features of Mingles is that they offer a very extensive free membership to their site, as well as the lowest priced paid membership that I have come across. The paid membership that Mingles offers is only $24.95 per YEAR, and it offers all the amenities of the free section plus a few more, as well as no advertising and additional support options for the site. For some guys that may just be worth the $2 a month!

On Mingles, it is always free to chat with other singles. With a free membership to Mingles you can not only post your profile and add photos of yourself, but you can also add a voice message which is a pretty unique feature and not one you would expect to find on a free site. Mingles also offers a feature called
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PhotoChat as well as message boards where you can search for members, receive email from other members ( and reply to emails you receive).

If you ante up the twenty four bucks, you can initiate unlimited email contacts and “winks” with other members, receive top placement in search results (THAT is a great boon), access mingle-matching (find members who are interested in you), plus access hidden chat rooms and message boards.

“Mingling” is a feature of Mingles that is totally unique to the online dating site world. Mingling means searching for people who have created descriptions that fit the profile you are wanting, much like eHarmony but simpler and quite a bit less expensive.

At Mingles they also offer a “hot list.” So when you find a profile of a single you think is attractive, you are able to add them to your hotlist or favorites. In Mingles’ unique photo chat room, you can see photos of the person you are speaking with.

Giving Women Intense Sexual Pleasure

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David Deangelo just finished up a fascinating interview with a gentleman named David Shade, a sexual “guru” who teaches men and women how to have better sex. He has written a phenomenal eBook called Masterful Lover that is a must read for any man who is looking to give a woman the ride of her life.  In his words… his specialty is “teaching guys how to take a woman’s pleasure beyond anything she’s ever imagined possible… and open up her up to things she is too inhibited to do… but KNOWS she would LOVE to do”…

1. Be The Man She Is Looking For

David Deangelo’s friend David Shade has a tremendous amount of experience with women… and he KNOWS what they want.  He explained to me that many women are sexually frustrated… not because they don’t have a man… but because their guy just doesn’t know how to please a woman.  Deep down, a woman wants a man who has the ability to “sweep her away”.

David Shade tells David DeAngelo that she wants to surrender to a man who is PASSIONATE and knows what he’s doing… so she can explore her sexuality in new and exciting ways that she would be too timid to explore otherwise.  If you can become the type of guy who has real a passion for pleasing women, and you learn how to please them in ways that other guys don’t, a woman will stay with you forever… because she knows unusual it is to find a guy like this.

2. Be Passionate, Not Obsessive

There’s a big difference, David Shade says, between being passionate and obsessive, and luckily for you most guys have no idea what that is… If you look at a woman and think, “I must have sex with her” you are actually GIVING UP YOUR POWER before you even meet!

This “adolescent” attitude actually scares women away… and I recommend you make a conscious effort to avoid it.  David Shade recommends a far different—and far more effective—approach. When you see an attractive woman you’d like to meet, instead of thinking about what she can do for you, start thinking about the fact that you know how to make her feel incredibly good… and how CRAZY she would be to pass up this opportunity.

David Shade tells David DeAngelo that you must KNOW that YOU can give her more pleasure that any other man can… and probably more than she could even handle.  When you believe that YOU have the power, you can help a woman explore her own sexuality in ways she didn’t even know existed.

Women will instantly pick up on this powerful attitude, and it will come across in everything you do.

3. Know What She Wants

David Shade shared some fantastic information on the 4 things a woman needs to feel in a relationship in order to be satisfied.

1. She needs to feel appreciated for the unique individual she is… and that her man supports her in all she does

2. She needs to feel a deep, emotional, intimate connection

3. She needs to feel like a sexy, beautiful, feminine woman

4. She needs hot, passionate sex… which includes being seduced, teased and satisfied over and over again… and exploring new roles and fantasies.

Give her these four things and she’ll be yours for as long as you like.

4. Be Supportive Without Being Needy

It’s ok to let a woman know how much you appreciate her, so long as you don’t come from a position of NEEDINESS.  Needy guys (David Deangelo calls them Wussies) pour it on too thick.  They put women on pedestals.  And, as you know… nothing drives a woman away faster.  A woman wants to be with a man who is strong, has his own life, and doesn’t NEED her.

If you come from a position of STRENGTH, compliments and appreciation will light up a woman’s life… because you will be giving them in a way that makes her feel MORE attracted to you.  So remember… she wants to be APPRECIATED… but not NEEDED.

5. Get Her Aroused Over The Phone

Listen up – David Shade shared an amazing strategy he uses to drive women wild OVER THE PHONE. Here’s how he does it:

1. He gets into a deep conversation about relationships and emotions, which gets a woman in a highly emotional state

2. He then asks her about what she wants to feel in a relationship… which gets her even more involved

3. He then talks about being alone… he asks he if she feels alone and explains to her how he feels the same way

4. He then asks her to think about how it would feel to be the OPPOSITE of alone… and tells her how he wishes he was holding her close right then and there

5. He then describes in intimate detail exactly what he would do if they were together…

And the rest is history.  The best thing about getting a woman turned on over the phone is that it gets her to imagine the two of you being intimate before it actually happens…

This paves the way for the REAL intimacy later on, according to David Shade.  When she sees you in person afterwards, there’s only ONE thing she’ll be able to think about… don’t be surprised if she wants to skip the “date” part of your date and head straight to the bedroom. I’m serious here… this will be the case more often than not.

Listen to this section of the interview a few times until you have it down… then give it a shot next time you are talking with a woman who is receptive towards you.  Take it slow and easy… and you just might be surprised at how well it works.

6. Try New Ways Of Giving Her Pleasure

David Shade says women love VARIETY in the bedroom.  And one of the biggest complaints women have about men is that they do the “same old” every time.  Most men have a sexual “routine” they are used to. They are comfortable using a certain set of moves and steps because it’s the same thing they have always done and it seems to work for them.

If you’re REALLY looking to please a woman over and over again, the “same old routine” has got to go.  Repeating the same moves in the same order night after night might work fine for YOU, but remember… women are “wired” differently… and they need different kinds of experiences to continue to be turned on and excited.

Fortunately for us women prefer to have these different kinds of experiences with THE SAME GUY… but if you don’t give them to her, she very well may look elsewhere.  On the other hand, if you do keep things exciting in the bedroom by mixing it up so she never knows what to expect, chances are she’ll NEVER leave… because you’ll be EXACTLY what she’s looking for.

So be sure to ALWAYS be unpredictable in the bedroom.  Don’t be afraid to experiment and try out new things. I’m sure you can think of a few…

7. Learn Some New Moves

An easy way to give a woman the sexual variety she wants is to learn some great techniques… especially some that she has never seen before.  In our interview David Shade shared some VERY interesting physical techniques he uses to drive a woman wild, and I highly recommend you try them out.

Make sure you listen to the later part of our interview a few times, and take some notes. There’s some great stuff in there that isn’t published anywhere else.  That doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t get your hands on other material that out there and study it for all it’s worth. Walk into any bookstore and you’ll find a TON of great books on how to please women… many with their own unique spin.  The small time investment you make will have HUGE rewards… of the best kind!  Fortunately for us, not many men take the time to actually do this… so those who DO have a massive advantage.

Women love it when you pull a new trick out… and when you have an ARSENAL of moves at your disposal… that you can pull out night after night to give her a brand new exciting experience.

8. Guide Her Through The Experience

Women want a leader INSIDE of the bedroom just as much as they want one outside of the bedroom.  Simply put: If you’re letting her do all of the work—or even a quarter of it—you’re doing something wrong.  As a man, you need to take charge when you’re between the sheets.

Don’t be afraid to put her into different positions, stand her up to kiss her then lay her back down, or start and stop the action (remember… 2 steps forward, 1 step back!).  David Shade made the important point that you also need to guide her through the experience with your VOICE.

Accfording to David Shade, men must remember… women like to be stimulated differently than us men… and when you talk to her in a soothing and sexual way it increases her pleasure more than you could ever imagine.  Here are a few great examples David Shade shared that you can start using right away:

• Encourage Her To RELAX – Telling a woman to relax and feel totally comfortable while you are giving her pleasure will cause her to enjoy her experience with you a whole lot more.  This tells her that you are in control and you care about her needs… and lets her know that she can just kick back and enjoy the ride.

• Talk About What She’s Feeling – Say things like, “That feels good, doesn’t it?”, and “I know you like that right there” to bring the experience alive in her mind and add the powerful element of verbal stimulation to your physical actions.  David Shade stresses that this is a HUGE turn on to women.

• Encourage Her Orgasms – When you feel she’s close to having an orgasm, encourage her along.  This will often be the thing that puts her over the edge.