***SUCCESS STORY***
Hi Dave,
After reading your eBook, I put many of your tactics into action. I work in a casino, so I get to meet a lot of beautiful young women. Once I got over the initial reluctance to ask them for their email/phone number, I started getting quite a few numbers in a night.
The other night there was a woman who was so gorgeous, it hurt. I walked over and chatted with her for a few minutes, then asked if she had email. She said “Sure, I do! Let me write it down for you.” Without asking she put down her phone number as well. The younger guys who work for me now call me a “God”. They have no idea how I can do it. Better looking guys are complaining that I get more phone numbers and emails in one night than they’ve got their whole lives. One of the women was classic.
She looked like Sheryl Crow and Jennifer Aniston combined. She complained she wasn’t winning on the machine and asked me what the secret was. I said, “I don’t know the secret today, but if I figure it out, I’ll email it to you. All I need now is your email address and your phone number in case email is down.” She was taken aback, but asked for my pen and wrote it down. Now instead of being alone on my days off, I have a lot of options which are all great ones. Thanks for your advice and changing me out of wuss mode.
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DAVID DEANGELO’s COMMENTS:
Options are great, aren’t they? And isn’t it amazing how a woman will give out her email and number if you just talk for a few minutes and then ask for it? I can remember when I first started learning this stuff… it seemed to me that no woman in her right mind would just give out her phone number to a complete stranger…
But then I discovered that no woman is actually IN her right mind! (Or at least this is my logical deduction, because they all seem to give out their phone numbers and email addresses so readily!) But to get back to the concept of “options”…
When you, as a guy, have options, it changes EVERYTHING. When you have a great date that evening plus three women to email or call, things are TOTALLY DIFFERENT than when you have nothing going on.
You feel different, you talk different, and you communicate in a different way. I believe that one of the reasons that attractive women come across so powerfully is because they KNOW that they have options. And one of the benefits of learning how to be more successful with women and dating is that you learn to CREATE YOUR OWN OPTIONS. When you know that you can walk out the door anytime you want and meet women, it frees up a lot of mental energy that was previously focused on other things.
Energy you can use to improve other areas of your life…
***COMMENT***
Dave my man,
I’ve been reading your advice for a while now and I have to laugh because I discovered several years ago cocky and funny really work. I am naturally cocky and a smartass to boot, so it usually worked, but not always. Then, my buddy told me something that drives ’em wild. The dude is 6’3” and 300 lbs, and he always had a good looking woman on his arm. His advice: Show a little interest, then ignore them. Of course I over simplified it, but you know what I mean. How many men have said that you can’t pick up women in a topless bar? I did all the time, and rarely spent any more money than on drinks for myself. And you can do this anywhere! It doesn’t have to be in a bar, it can be used in the office, online dating sites, at the park, whatever!
The other guys are feeding the girls dollar bills and getting no where. I’m just an average looking guy, but the honeys went for it like mad. You are on the mark and anyone that has problems meeting women should heed your advice. PS: I love the way you bust on the chicks that write to you and say how wrong you are!
D.
DAVID DEANGELO’s COMMENTS:
lol… thanks!
Yes, women really love it when you show some interest, but then don’t hang on them. Women, and especially attractive women, LOVE a good challenge. It’s fun for them. And yes, I do enjoy emails from women… both positive and negative. I just wish more women would write me! (And I wish that when they did write that they’d send PICTURES! I have gotten a few, but com’mon!)
***QUESTION***
Wasssup!! I just have to tell ya that I think you’re a dating-guide god to all guys out there who have trouble with women, dating or relationships! I’ve been reading your free me-mails for about two months now and I gotta tell ya, your a genius!! I haven’t even purchased the book yet but everything you say makes perfect sense. So I have decided to purchase Double Your Dating. I can’t wait to see how it works out. I have the hardest time meeting women and the bad thing about it is most girls think I’m good looking. But they think I’m boring.
Here’s my question to you. I’m not sure about the whole Cocky & Funny thing, how do I be cocky yet not come across as an asshole? And I’ve really never been the funny type of guy I just don’t know how without saying or doing something that might make me look like a wussy. Can you help a bro out PLEASE with some classic Deangelo Dating Tips?
DW-ks
DAVID DEANGELO’S COMMENTS:
OK, here’s the basic formula for Cocky & Funny:
Take an arrogant comment, then add humor. It’s a killer combination. The key is that it HAS TO BE FUNNY. It actually has to make others laugh. You must make sure that you are Cocky enough, because if you’re only FUNNY, then you will come across as GOOFY, which isn’t what you want.
So, for instance, you might be at a bar, and you’re having a drink. Let’s say your drink has too much alcohol in it, and you’re going to comment on it. An arrogant comment might be:
“This bartender sucks. There’s too much booze in my drink.”
Add a touch of humor, and it turns into:
“Whoa, this bartender either loves me or is trying to kill me. This drink is pure alcohol. Is there an AA meeting nearby? Cuz I’m gonna need it when I’m done with this one.”
You feel me? Cocky & Funny = Great Pick Up Lines and Conversation Starters.
It’s the COMBINATION that makes Cocky & Funny work like magic. Too little or too much of either and you will come off as an idiot. And remember, have fun. Practice is what will help you improve.
***QUESTION***
Dave,
Man, life has changed over the last 4 months since grabbing your book and applying Cocky Comedy! My friends are amazed at how many women I am dating and life is great! One of the most important points I have followed from you is breaking down the whole pickup/dating/score routine and approaching each part as a skill I must learn. Got past the email/phone number part, past the first date and first kiss part, and finally the step towards intimacy. But alas, I’m down to the one skill that I have problems with and that I’ve never seen you really address: The graceful exit skill…
Let me explain…OK, I meet a girl, we go out, maybe we end up in each other’s arms, maybe not, but there comes a point when I just want to end it and move on to another girl. I always get nervous with the “Well, it’s been fun, but we this isn’t going to work out so have a good life…” Do I call and leave a voice mail? Do I phone her? Do I break it off face-to-face? What’s the confident, C&F way to leave a girl and not have PLAYER stamped onto my forehead because of it?
Loving life,
S.R.
DAVID DEANGELO’s COMMENTS:
You’re a very, very, very bad man. In the best way possible, of course. I think the key to dating more than one woman, or to not seeing a woman more than once or twice is to NOT ACT LIKE YOU’RE HER BOYFRIEND FROM THE BEGINNING.
Women will only resent you if you mislead them. So don’t. It’s not necessary. Just have fun, be straight up, and enjoy yourself. You don’t have to break something off if it never was “something” to begin with. Are you with me? The big mistake is to call twice a day, see her five times a week, act like her long lost love, and then drop her without explanation.
I think you get what I’m saying.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Dave,
I have been subscribing to the newsletter for about 6 or 8 months and have purchased your Double Your Dating eBook a couple after subscribing. Your information has been invaluable and well worth the price. It has completely changed the way I look at women, I never pine over them anymore and wonder “what’s wrong with me”. Now I know what was wrong with me, I was a wuss! But that’s all changed now and have become the Jedi Master. I’ve even come up with some Jedi Techniques of my own.
At any rate, I met this one girl at a party one night who I knew came with a few acquaintances of mine who I told about the party. I got to talking to her and we talked for a few minutes and poured on the Cocky & Funny, but I never got her info. I know, I know, the 3 minute technique, but I knew I could obtain it from her friends, and the way she interacted with me, I knew she wouldn’t have minded at all (Important Note: this is my success story, I wouldn’t recommend doing things like this unless you have developed the confidence that your book helps teach). Well, I never had to even asked her friends because two days later, she ended up looking me up in the University’s online student directory and then she looked up my IM name and IMed me with a “mysterious person” message. I immediately figured out it was her and then accused her of stalking me and told her that’s pretty illegal. She almost thought I was mad at her! It was great!
Anyways, she is a real quality girl (not to mention about a 9, not perfect, but gorgeous nonetheless) and we set something up to go play pool at a local bar where I again poured it on thick. Now mind you, I hadn’t made any big advances or anything but as she dropped me off back home, she came in to use the bathroom. After she came out, she wrapped her arms around me and let me have a little taste. I said goodnight to her and that was that night. A few nights later, I told her I was going to be cooking and that she should come over which leads me to…
***Tip 1*** One of the best techniques is to invite a girl over for dinner at your place, especially if you know how to cook. I find that many women don’t know how to cook or only “cook” stuff like Mac and Cheese and other junk. The best part about this is they get to see your skill, which is pretty attractive to women when you can make a good meal, and you have the most control because it is your own place. The other part, is make sure you don’t start making dinner until she is already at your place, she’s not getting an entirely free meal!
Make her help. If she refuses, use the Cocky & Funny techniques and have her do something. Put her on a task that’s not too difficult so she can’t mess it up. For example, if you’re making lasagna, make her grate cheese or something (making her wash dishes is rather insulting unless you’re doing most of them and she wants to help, which she just might). And when you’re all done with dinner, take it to the couch and turn on the TV or watch a movie or something. Which brings me to…
***Tip 2*** If you’re sitting down next to a girl that you’re talking to in a private setting and you get a little of that silence, not the awkward kind, but the kind where you just kind of look at each other. If you’re thinking to yourself “should I be kissing her?”. The answer is a screaming “YES”. This can be preceded by the “kiss Test” as well, but I know a lot of single guys will still have insecurities about this kind of thing.
Think about it this way. If you don’t kiss her, then she’ll probably think you’re a wuss because you don’t have the balls to do something she probably wants you to anyways. After talking with a number of my girl-friends, I’ve found out that if a guy tries to kiss a girl, unless there is an obvious lack of attraction, she will most likely go with the kiss. At any rate, in this day and age, she’s not going to slap you and walk out the door. It’s not like you grabbed her crotch or something.
***Tip 3*** MC from the Mediterranean asked a question about calling the next day. I just wanted to point out you have already answered this question in some form and you know what to do! You can generally sense if a girl is sensitive about something like that. If not, send her some sort of message that next day, preferably email, but if you’re on the phone, have something you’re on the way to or busy with. Call, say “hi” and that you had a great time, don’t ask how she’s doing or what she thinks about what or if she had a good time, but find some way to use C&F to make a light conversation that will keep her wondering and even thinking about you. Don’t bring up the sex unless she does so in a favorable manner.
***Tip 4*** Not so much a getting single girls technique, but rather something you need to do alone. In your spare time or even when doing mindless tasks, go over your past failed attempts when you have a clear head about them and think about what happened.
You’d be surprised at how easy it is to find the things that went wrong. You’ll also be surprised to find out that these are probably mistakes you make all the time! This is the best way to recognize the problem and rectify it so that its not repeated. Your techniques are nearly priceless and have stroked the confidence of guys everywhere. I’ve even recommended it to friends that have some serious wuss problems. I have yet to see if they’ve taken it to heart or even subscribed, but I’ll help them yet! Things are going great with that girl and I know it wouldn’t have happened if it weren’t for your eBook. Its now become second nature, and you get all the credit.
Thanks again Dave
Your once Jedi Apprentice, now Master, D.M.
DAVID DEANGELO’S COMMENTS:
Great ideas… great.
Nothing else needs to be said…
Except that you stole those ideas from me, loser.