Many men may not be aware of what it is that women look for and how to present the best appearance when seeking to connect with a woman in today’s dating scene.  Just as important as what to do, how to look, etc., however, can be what not to do and how not to look.  For instance, you might have had a relationship go sour early on and have no idea why, especially when everything seemed to “click”.  The point is that many things may have been clicking with her too, but something got in her craw, and drove her a way.  It may be too late this time, although if you really liked this girl, try it again with some modifications – leave out these “unspoken” pet peeves.  Here are a few tips on what women consider their worst pet peeves will provide an insight into what works and what doesn’t work in today’s dating world.

Looking at other Women

Number One on a women’s worst pet peeve list is looking at other women when you’re on a date with them. Although men are visual creatures whose eyes follow attractive people instinctively, you should learn to curb this automatic response carefully if you want to make a favorable impression with the women you’re dating.  So get your head on straight and look forward at her.  If you happen to look away, as men tend to do in normal conversation, and catch a glimpse of an attractive woman, keep that head moving – and don’t stare.  Go to the thinking mode and look up.  The thinking mode is “thinking about the one you’re with!”

Forgetting Your Manners

Good manners are important in every area of life, but men sometimes suffer lapses in manners when they are nervous or in casual situations such as sports events or especially in social groups with other men around. Simple gestures such as please and thank you, holding the door for, listening attentively to her conversation, keeping your voice volume in check, avoiding rough language and generally being low-key can assure your date that you can go anywhere and be socially acceptable.  If she wants to be a little loud and boisterous, let her, this is not a competition.

Personal Grooming Lapses

We’ve said it before, and it needs to sink in: Not tending personal grooming is one of the biggest pet peeves most women hate. If you don’t look well-groomed and personal, she will have a difficult time looking past it to the shining person within. Clean skin, well-cut hair and stylish clothing are some of the physical characteristics women notice. Clean and tidy facial hair is critical to creating a good impression.

Relationship Histories

Women find stories of bad behavior and heartache a real turnoff, and it may have them beginning to wonder about your part in the breakup. Keep any tales of woe for a time when the relationship has grown deeper, and you can be assured of getting a fair hearing.  She may talk about her recent heart-break or a cheating boyfriend, but don’t try chiming in with your sob stories.  Instead, give her sympathy and understanding, and move the conversation towards positive things and interests you both have in common.

Overconfidence and Self-Absorption

A date is not the place to show your bold self-confidence or sales technique. You may be a fascinating human being with many tales to tell, but dating is about exchanging information on both sides.  Remember to stop and listen, ask questions and respond appropriately. As just mentioned, talk about positive topics, and interests you both have in common.  Usually, talking about what you both like will carry the conversation perfectly.  This will help expose just how compatible you really are.

Getting Too Close, Too Fast

Every relationship is a dance, and it’s important for men to be able to judge the pace of their partner. Avoid asking overly personal questions unless the women seems open to it. Be careful what you “read” into things—you may be wrong.  And whatever you do, don’t “step on her toes!”

April Labarron is a native of Southern California. She has her BA in English/Literature from MSJC in Menifee, Ca. She views her freelance writing, not only as a career, but as her passion. Other areas of interest include; movies, food, singing, soccer, traveling, shopping and a continuous desire for learning.   She lives on her own and is accompanied by her Pomeranian named, Elvis. She currently resides in Temecula, CA.

 

One of the most important first steps in getting the girl is getting the girl’s phone number.  This not only keeps you in contact moving the relationship forward, it is also an indication that she is interested.  A great confidence booster!

However, if you have not always been as successful as you would have liked, in getting a girl’s phone number, then follow these four foolproof steps to make sure you get it next time.

1. Don’t Just Ask Right Away

Don’t just walk up and blurt out a request for her phone number. This may work occasionally, but it will end in embarrassing rejection more often than not. The best way to get a woman’s number is to spend some time chatting her up first. If you spend some time talking with her first, it will make her much more comfortable with giving you her number.

2. Ask Her Questions

If you have trouble talking with women you just met, remember that the easiest way to quickly flatter a woman is to ask her questions about herself. People are always delighted when another person shows interest in them. Even if she isn’t that attracted to you physically, you can quickly create an emotional bond with her by asking her to talk about herself. This will greatly increase your odds of getting that number.

3. Act Confident

The key to success with women in any endeavor is confidence, and getting a woman’s phone number is no different. You need to showcase your confidence if you want her to respond. The best way to be confident is to act like you have done it a million time before. Take a couple of deep breaths before you go over, and remind yourself that getting her number is easy. Just act confident. You will be amazed at the success you have.

4. Program Your Number into Her Smartphone

When you get her number, don’t forget to also program your number into her phone.  If she gets a call from an unknown number later on, she might not answer it. However, if you have already programmed your number into her smartphone, then she will remember you and answer when you call.

If you follow these four tips, your phone will be overflowing with numbers before you know it. It really isn’t hard to do. Simply convince yourself that it’s easy. It is like a magic trick. When you believe that it is easy to get her number, it suddenly becomes easy to do it.