David Deangelo just finished up a fascinating interview with a gentleman named David Shade, a sexual “guru” who teaches men and women how to have better sex. He has written a phenomenal eBook called Masterful Lover that is a must read for any man who is looking to give a woman the ride of her life. In his words… his specialty is “teaching guys how to take a woman’s pleasure beyond anything she’s ever imagined possible… and open up her up to things she is too inhibited to do… but KNOWS she would LOVE to do”…
1. Be The Man She Is Looking For
David Deangelo’s friend David Shade has a tremendous amount of experience with women… and he KNOWS what they want. He explained to me that many women are sexually frustrated… not because they don’t have a man… but because their guy just doesn’t know how to please a woman. Deep down, a woman wants a man who has the ability to “sweep her away”.
David Shade tells David DeAngelo that she wants to surrender to a man who is PASSIONATE and knows what he’s doing… so she can explore her sexuality in new and exciting ways that she would be too timid to explore otherwise. If you can become the type of guy who has real a passion for pleasing women, and you learn how to please them in ways that other guys don’t, a woman will stay with you forever… because she knows unusual it is to find a guy like this.
2. Be Passionate, Not Obsessive
There’s a big difference, David Shade says, between being passionate and obsessive, and luckily for you most guys have no idea what that is… If you look at a woman and think, “I must have sex with her” you are actually GIVING UP YOUR POWER before you even meet!
This “adolescent” attitude actually scares women away… and I recommend you make a conscious effort to avoid it. David Shade recommends a far different—and far more effective—approach. When you see an attractive woman you’d like to meet, instead of thinking about what she can do for you, start thinking about the fact that you know how to make her feel incredibly good… and how CRAZY she would be to pass up this opportunity.
David Shade tells David DeAngelo that you must KNOW that YOU can give her more pleasure that any other man can… and probably more than she could even handle. When you believe that YOU have the power, you can help a woman explore her own sexuality in ways she didn’t even know existed.
Women will instantly pick up on this powerful attitude, and it will come across in everything you do.
3. Know What She Wants
David Shade shared some fantastic information on the 4 things a woman needs to feel in a relationship in order to be satisfied.
1. She needs to feel appreciated for the unique individual she is… and that her man supports her in all she does
2. She needs to feel a deep, emotional, intimate connection
3. She needs to feel like a sexy, beautiful, feminine woman
4. She needs hot, passionate sex… which includes being seduced, teased and satisfied over and over again… and exploring new roles and fantasies.
Give her these four things and she’ll be yours for as long as you like.
4. Be Supportive Without Being Needy
It’s ok to let a woman know how much you appreciate her, so long as you don’t come from a position of NEEDINESS. Needy guys (David Deangelo calls them Wussies) pour it on too thick. They put women on pedestals. And, as you know… nothing drives a woman away faster. A woman wants to be with a man who is strong, has his own life, and doesn’t NEED her.
If you come from a position of STRENGTH, compliments and appreciation will light up a woman’s life… because you will be giving them in a way that makes her feel MORE attracted to you. So remember… she wants to be APPRECIATED… but not NEEDED.
5. Get Her Aroused Over The Phone
Listen up – David Shade shared an amazing strategy he uses to drive women wild OVER THE PHONE. Here’s how he does it:
1. He gets into a deep conversation about relationships and emotions, which gets a woman in a highly emotional state
2. He then asks her about what she wants to feel in a relationship… which gets her even more involved
3. He then talks about being alone… he asks he if she feels alone and explains to her how he feels the same way
4. He then asks her to think about how it would feel to be the OPPOSITE of alone… and tells her how he wishes he was holding her close right then and there
5. He then describes in intimate detail exactly what he would do if they were together…
And the rest is history. The best thing about getting a woman turned on over the phone is that it gets her to imagine the two of you being intimate before it actually happens…
This paves the way for the REAL intimacy later on, according to David Shade. When she sees you in person afterwards, there’s only ONE thing she’ll be able to think about… don’t be surprised if she wants to skip the “date” part of your date and head straight to the bedroom. I’m serious here… this will be the case more often than not.
Listen to this section of the interview a few times until you have it down… then give it a shot next time you are talking with a woman who is receptive towards you. Take it slow and easy… and you just might be surprised at how well it works.
6. Try New Ways Of Giving Her Pleasure
David Shade says women love VARIETY in the bedroom. And one of the biggest complaints women have about men is that they do the “same old” every time. Most men have a sexual “routine” they are used to. They are comfortable using a certain set of moves and steps because it’s the same thing they have always done and it seems to work for them.
If you’re REALLY looking to please a woman over and over again, the “same old routine” has got to go. Repeating the same moves in the same order night after night might work fine for YOU, but remember… women are “wired” differently… and they need different kinds of experiences to continue to be turned on and excited.
Fortunately for us women prefer to have these different kinds of experiences with THE SAME GUY… but if you don’t give them to her, she very well may look elsewhere. On the other hand, if you do keep things exciting in the bedroom by mixing it up so she never knows what to expect, chances are she’ll NEVER leave… because you’ll be EXACTLY what she’s looking for.
So be sure to ALWAYS be unpredictable in the bedroom. Don’t be afraid to experiment and try out new things. I’m sure you can think of a few…
7. Learn Some New Moves
An easy way to give a woman the sexual variety she wants is to learn some great techniques… especially some that she has never seen before. In our interview David Shade shared some VERY interesting physical techniques he uses to drive a woman wild, and I highly recommend you try them out.
Make sure you listen to the later part of our interview a few times, and take some notes. There’s some great stuff in there that isn’t published anywhere else. That doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t get your hands on other material that out there and study it for all it’s worth. Walk into any bookstore and you’ll find a TON of great books on how to please women… many with their own unique spin. The small time investment you make will have HUGE rewards… of the best kind! Fortunately for us, not many men take the time to actually do this… so those who DO have a massive advantage.
Women love it when you pull a new trick out… and when you have an ARSENAL of moves at your disposal… that you can pull out night after night to give her a brand new exciting experience.
8. Guide Her Through The Experience
Women want a leader INSIDE of the bedroom just as much as they want one outside of the bedroom. Simply put: If you’re letting her do all of the work—or even a quarter of it—you’re doing something wrong. As a man, you need to take charge when you’re between the sheets.
Don’t be afraid to put her into different positions, stand her up to kiss her then lay her back down, or start and stop the action (remember… 2 steps forward, 1 step back!). David Shade made the important point that you also need to guide her through the experience with your VOICE.
Accfording to David Shade, men must remember… women like to be stimulated differently than us men… and when you talk to her in a soothing and sexual way it increases her pleasure more than you could ever imagine. Here are a few great examples David Shade shared that you can start using right away:
• Encourage Her To RELAX – Telling a woman to relax and feel totally comfortable while you are giving her pleasure will cause her to enjoy her experience with you a whole lot more. This tells her that you are in control and you care about her needs… and lets her know that she can just kick back and enjoy the ride.
• Talk About What She’s Feeling – Say things like, “That feels good, doesn’t it?”, and “I know you like that right there” to bring the experience alive in her mind and add the powerful element of verbal stimulation to your physical actions. David Shade stresses that this is a HUGE turn on to women.
• Encourage Her Orgasms – When you feel she’s close to having an orgasm, encourage her along. This will often be the thing that puts her over the edge.