There are a lot of new venues coming out that can be used to meet women online. Myspace was popular for a while, but then the spammers started hitting it and all the commercial crap – and pretty soon Myspace became a feeding frenzy – and meeting women online became a LOT harder.
But then Facebook came along – and did a MUCH better job of keeping out the internet mongers. Thus it has become a reliable venue for meeting women online and can really breathe some life back into your dating life. The thing is – you gotta know HOW to market yourself on Facebook so you don’t look like some jackass from Myspace who just got a new playground.
Here are four simple steps you can follow to begin to open the floodgates.
STEP 1: Connect with the guys – and other women – who have a lot of cute girl friends. You have to be circumspect at the beginning, or you really could accused of spamming and kicked out. So root out the people who have big networks – and become their friends. Remember – in this case – friends FIRST!
Next – start trying to connect with the women you are interested in a very roundabout manner. Send them a friend request with a message. Now, if you send a message that says, “Hey baby you are HOT – wanna hook up?” She is going to kick you right in your cyber-nuts and block you. Instead – find something about her that you have in common, and find a person that you are both friends with. Instead, say something like “Hey I saw you on Michael’s friend list and I noticed that you love to read too. Have you ever read The Death Gate Cycle by Margaret Weiss and Tracy Hickman?” Make sure it’s a question, too, so she feels compelled to answer you.
STEP 3: Start using the tools that Facebook offers. If you are meeting women online, you have got to at least use the Group tool. If you want to start doing that – check out the group “Carlos Xuma’s Alpha Lifestyle” – it is a totally cool way tyo get together with other MEN and discuss the latest dating tips for men on the internet.
Anyway – create a group that is something that women would like too. Ok- so no Fantasy Baseball League Group. Instead try something about maybe coffee or cooking, fitness, the latest reality show or local venues. Something a woman can get into. Then – invite her to your group!
The last step is where you really start getting into the good stuff. Here is where you begin to take your Group offline – have a party at a local bar, or set up a group outing. THIS is where you can start really meeting the women. Have a wine appreciation group? Go to wine tasting. Have a gourmet food group? Check out a new restaurant. Get the drift, Kimosabe?
Ok – so this is some pretty basic stuff, but it can really liven up your dating life. If you want to REALLY learn some tips and tricks for meeting women online, check out David Deangelo’s program called, coincidentally enough, Meeting Women Online. Or – if you want to read some REALLY cool dating tips for men by Carlos Xuma (mentioned above – and you can actually hook up with him on Facebook. Talk about a NETWORK!) check out his Dating Black Book of dating tips.
enggie says
Hi,
Good posts – some friends and I have been working on the same kinda thing 😉
We have made a 10 ways to date on facebook document based on the posts on our forum – let us know what you think!
http://www.facebookdater.com/10-ways-to-use-facebook-for-dating-t39.html
admin says
Hey Greg –
I totally get what you are saying, it seems really counterintuitive. What I mean, though, is that you can FAKE confidence – even if you are shaking like a little girl inside 🙂 by commanding your own body language and actions. Even if you are afraid to approach a woman, you don’t have to act like it. You don’t have to give in to the fear – you just suck it up and DO it.
After you do this often enough, you will realize that the fear of approaching women is totally irrational. The worst that can happen- she says piss off. Ok. So big deal. The thing is – the less fear you feel (or SHOW) the more likely youa re to get the girl, and success breeds success. So, I say, fake it till you got it!
admin says
Enggie –
I loved your article, man, but damn, I can’t get into your site to post a reply! I tried registering, and after about 8 tries wit different user names and that verification code, I gave up. Perhaps you may want to reconsider having to be registered to get comments, you would probably get a lot more. 🙂 IMHO!
Enggie says
Hi all!
Man, I’m so sorry – that forum was FLOODED with spam, so I had to redesign. The forum should be up and running in a week and I installed a blog where I put all the information.
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