Some men are nice guys. And then, some men are “nice guys” – you know the ones – the ones that have a ton of female friends but have never had a girlfriend in their whole life? These men, these doomed, lost brothers who are stuck in the dreaded “friend zone” NEED to read this article. I’m going to tell you what these “Nice Guys” are doing wrong. And maybe, just maybe, you could be making some of those same mistakes.
There are several key concepts that are LAW when it comes to attracting women. These are in no particular order, but they are each very important to understand if you want to know what makes attraction work – and use that to your OWN advantage.
Getting right to it – the first of these immutable laws is that Attraction is NOT a choice. I know you have probably heard dating advice experts like David Deangelo or Lance Mason say that before – but the thing is – it’s true. Attraction isn’t a choice. You don’t look at someone and think, “Hey! I want to be attracted to HER!”
The second law of attraction – the attractive people have the pick of the pack. In particular – the hot women. They can almost any man they want, right? They know it. Men tell them! All the time! Beautiful women are approached CONSTANTLY. Every day – several times a day. So try to see this from HER point of view – if she gave her attention to every Chuck Schmuck that wanted it, she could not get through a day. So if you want her attention, you better earn it.
The third rule in attraction is that attraction does not always make sense. Think about it. Every woman wants a great guy to treat her wonderfully, bring her flowers and open doors for her. But she gets him, and she loses interest in about two weeks. Why? She is not ATTRACTED to him. Logically, she should be. At the gut level – she is not.
Law four – STATUS is very important when it comes to ATTRACTION. Beautiful girls are rarely attracted to men perceived to be of a lower status than they are. Being the Alpha Male is a must if you are looking to attract women.
The thing is – women are on the lookout for the man that sparks that attraction in her. She may not even know what that “thing” is, but …I do. That thing that women want is the man to be a real MAN. Not a wuss, not a wimp, not a “nice guy”. That may seem counterintuitive – but let me ask you this – how’s your current game plan working out for you so far?
What can you do to stop this attraction killing behavior? There are a few simple steps you can take to get your cajones back and get the girl. One – stop being NICE to attractive women. No compliments, no pleasing her, no gifts, no crap just to make her like you. As a matter of fact – bust on her a bit. Tell her she is a brat. Tell her she is being bad and you won’t talk to her until she can be nice.
Two – tell an attractive women no at least once every single day. Doesn’t have to be big – but when some hot woman asks you to hand her the newspaper at the coffee shop – tell her no. Of course, you can wait a few minutes while she grabs her jaw off the floor and then give her what she was asking for, but just bust her bubble if you can.
Three – respect YOURSELF and grow a pair, you know what I mean? Remember that you are YOU, and do not put aside your personality, your beliefs or your wants and needs for any woman. Or anyone, for that matter. Respect yourself and you will get respect.