A few weeks back, I was ‘pregaming’ with my buddies before going out to a local bar. And like guys do, we get to talking about our favorite subject- WOMEN.
Each of us mentioned the different girls we’re dating and I felt a childish need to top them (Hey, I’m only human), So I pulled out my cell phone and showed a few semi-nude/nude pics I received from this one girl through text messaging (For the sake of privacy, we’ll call her ‘Dana’). And of course, my friends wanted to know MORE about Dana.
What really shocked them was when I told my friends that I never met OR had a phone conversation with this girl. In fact, the ONLY contact I had with her was ONE MySpace message and a DOZEN text messages.
Naturally my friends wondered how I could get a girl to send dirty pictures of herself when she NEVER met me! What’s even better is I met up with Dana about a week after this conversation. I didn’t really plan out an activity. In fact, I happened to be in the area with my buddy John and was actually pretty drunk, BUT I knew she lived nearby so I sent her a quick text message and asked if she wanted to join us. Even though I was RETARDEDLY drunk, and had ZERO game, it took ONLY about an hour of IN-PERSON conversation to get her into bed!
Let me say that again…I had SEX with Dana after ONLY 1 hour of conversation. I’m not telling this because I want to brag. In fact, I work REALLY hard to NOT discuss my personal life with people, but I think there’s a REALLY important lesson to be learned here…
TEXT MESSAGING should be a MAJOR tool to use when you’re meeting women. Unless you’ve lived in a cave for the last couple of years, you’re probably familiar with text messages. These are the short, “email like” messages you can send to people through your cell phone. They’re widely used because they’re INCREDIBLY useful for when you just want to ask a quick question or send a brief message. What’s interesting is women LOVE text messaging!
If you’ve watch women, you’ll notice how much many text messages they send. In fact, I think this form of technology is rapidly replacing phone conversations. So when you text message a girl the RIGHT way, you can quickly build enough attraction that you won’t have to do much IN-PERSON game when you see her next.
BUT there’s one major problem here…Most of the guys I know totally SCREW-UP their text messages. They text the way we men typically have conversations. When talking to one another, we like to think logically and make plans. This means are texts are usually straight to the point.
Women on the other hand, view text messaging as a way to get to know one another. They use it to describe their problems and stay in touch with people in their lives.
It’s important to remember this rule when texting!
The way I use text messaging is to build SEXUAL TENSION. Before EACH text I send, I think carefully about how this message will ADVANCE the interaction I’m having with a particular girl.
Whether I’m teasing her, sending “comfort” messages or making plans, my texts are SPECIFICALLY designed to create a STRONG emotion in the girl who is receiving them!
And from the above example, you can see that there is a TON of power behind sending a well-written text message.