Life after a divorce can be confusing. You have two choices: wallow in self-pity or move on. Hopefully, most see the wisdom in making this period in their lives one of self-discovery. Spending some solo time is an effective way to take an inventory of things to improve. You can take this time to make yourself over and start fresh. The years after a divorce give you an opportunity to figure out who you are and what you want from life.
Take a Walk on the Creative Side
Everyone has a spark of creativity in them. Now is a good time to unleash the inner artist in you. Take a class in pottery or learn to paint. Being creative might mean rehabilitating furniture or knitting. Sit down and write the great American novel or master haiku. It doesn’t really matter what you try, only that you do. Play around with some different hobbies until you find one that helps.
Lose the Negativity
There is a lot of pain associated with divorce. Hanging on to that negativity will bury you. Avoid triggers that can bring you down. It might be necessary to put some friendships, especially couples, on hold for a while. Avoid traditional situations that used to be “couple” activities. If you and your significant other always joined a bowling league, try something else this season. If romantic comedies were your favorite, watch an action film for a change. Shake things up to lose the divorce blues.
Start a Blog
Blogging is technology’s answer to “Dear Diary.” It is a cathartic activity that provides a way to express yourself. You can create a blog that helps connect with other people going through life changes or divorce. You can set up pages that no one sees but you. It is your choice. Use the opportunity to explore your feelings, swap stories with a like-minded community, or let your friends know what new movie to check out.
Change your Look
You can’t really feel good about yourself unless you are happy with how you look. If you are feeling low after a divorce, getting a makeover might be the cure. Collaborate with some friends you admire and make a list of things you want to accomplish. Some items may include weight loss, a chic hairstyle, and new clothes. Residents who want to get the perfect smile might opt for dental implants. Start small and build until you find a look you love.
Divorce is not the end of anything unless you fall into that trap. It is the beginning of whatever life you choose to build. Take productive steps, even if they are baby ones, to move on after divorce.
About The Author:
Hailey Andersen like to write about personal development and motivational strategies that she finds useful. Follow her on Twitter at: @HaileyWrites.